Rogue (Rogue) says:
(Posted March 14th, 2009 at 6:23 pm)

i saw a documentary about Buck once. it was very interesting and oddly enough i had stumbled upon some of those vids on xtube myself not too long ago. ACTUALLY…..as i recall…it was because one or two of his videos were on the featured front page. fancy that!

Phil (Phil) says:
(Posted March 14th, 2009 at 7:04 pm)

Fantastic! I’m so glad you’ve done such a great take on genderqueer! My good friend Dallas who used to be Vanessa, who used to be Derrick was my first introduction to genderqueer. It was fascinating how fluid Dallas’s–then Vanessa’s–gender was, and I gained a new appreciation and comfort with it by getting to know Dallas so well and supporting her for the years we’ve known one another. Gender isn’t a fixed point, nor is it destination, its a journey! In a way, we’re ALL genderqueer because when we stop living up the our gender stereotypes, and accepting who we are as we are, we’re throwing a big middle finger up and saying “I am who I am, I am my own special creation!”

Louis (Louis) says:
(Posted March 14th, 2009 at 7:06 pm)

Buck Angel gets me all hot and bothered

Lucas (Lucas) says:
(Posted March 14th, 2009 at 7:06 pm)

Indeed, it is really interesting and an intense mind fuck at times. The hardest thing for me to grasp through all of this still remains is the idea of their relationships, both physical and emotional. It is actually a very confusing idea. So, lets say that there is a heterosexual man who is married to a heterosexual woman. After a lifetime of trying to deny it, the man finally breaks down and admits to feeling out of place in his body and needs to have his body resemble how his mind truly identifies: as a woman.

Once the transition takes place, the question of sexuality, especially that of the partner, is no longer as simple as one would think. If they are to stay together, does that make the wife a lesbian? Are the men that are having sex with Buck Wild actually gay because he still has a vagina? And those questions are solely on the surface level. When you dig down deeper, all hell can seem to break loose.

So, lets say that a woman self identifies as a lesbian. If she makes the transition into being a man but does not have any genital reconstruction, or phalloplasty, how can the sexuality of his partner seem to deconstruct everything that the individual has worked towards through transitioning? Say this FTM who has not had phalloplasty is dating a woman who identifies as a lesbian. Does their partner’s orientation completely undermine the FTM’s identity? Put simpler, if she only has sex with women and she is dating/having sex with a FTM individual, does that, in and of itself, make it to where the transition was actually a failure?

For me, the concept of sexuality being independent of gender is something that i have understood for a long time. This idea of partner selection calling into question sex and sexuality, however, is something that is completely new to my questioning mind.

bad sean (bad sean) says:
(Posted March 14th, 2009 at 9:21 pm)

I wish i had pecs like that…

Suleman Hussain (Suleman Hussain) says:
(Posted March 15th, 2009 at 1:13 pm)

Wow… these comments have been thoroughly interesting.

My first reaction, was to take the challenge and try and fit this into nice categories, through logical deduction. So I came up with the Idea that Buck’s Sex is female, but buck’s gender is male.

However, that doesn’t really help a lot. After reading Lucas’s questions about the sexuality of the partners I am sharply reminded of the character “Chablis” from the book “Midnight in the Garden of Good and Evil” (and though I’ve never seen the movie version, i’ve heard it’s painfully watered down, just fyi, read the book).

Also important to note is that this book is vast majority non-fiction, but names were changed so this story did happen. Chablis (not the main character btw) is a famous stripper in Savannah, Georgia who was “frank” until she turned 16. She has undergone hormone treatment to give herself female features, and identifies as a woman, but still has a penis, which she can use. At one point in the book Chablis complains how men come to her later and say “because of you I know I’m gay” to which she is pretty pissed, as she regards herself as a woman.

Later in the book, she becomes involved with a straight man who doesn’t know she has a penis. I don’t remember how long it takes, but one night while fooling around he feels her up and gets pissed and leaves. But then comes back several days later and tells her something along the lines of “I don’t know what this makes me, but I can’t stop thinking about you, so we’re going to try this”.

What all of that tells me, is that a man could still be “straight” and fall for a FTM. After all, if he is under the impression she is female, and that’s what arouses him, why should it be THAT big of a deal that she’s got something swinging between her legs? Okay, maybe it is a big deal. But that’s my thoughts, this is most confusing.

Alex Crumbsnatcher (Alex Crumbsnatcher) says:
(Posted March 29th, 2009 at 5:02 am)

it’s weird that you just wrote this blog about this particular guy, because i just heard about him for the first time last night from my friend micah.

i would like to say though, that you said that an ftm is a person who is born with female gentalia, and then goes through surgery, and this is not always the case.

first of all, a big part of being genderqueer is redefining what is boy and what is girl, this includes using terms like “male” and “female” genitalia. for example, if someone is a boy and is born with a vagina, then isn’t the vagina his “male genitalia”?

very few trans people have bottom surgery, because it’s more of a genital mutilation than a sex change. surgically constructed vaginas, for example, can only go about 5 inches deep.

most trans people go through hormone therapy for sure. hormone therapy can make mtf’s grow actual tits without surgery, and can make ftm’s clits become enlarged and look like a penis as well as grow more hair.

a lot of the people that go through hormone therapy also get top surgery, and in the case of mtf’s, get laser hair removal, but some don’t even feel like they need any of that. if they identify as a boy, then that is good enough, and the genitals that they were born with are a part of them, and coincide with thier concept of gender.

i really don’t talk to very many non trans people because i get really frustrated with the fact that so many gay boys are no longer in touch with their roots, especially in san francisco. trans people are going through issues that are real and are current, and i know what that feels like.

as far as straight boys falling for ftm’s and mtf’s, i know a lot of trannies who date straight people. if it wasn’t for the fact taht i am in a monogamous relationship, and have been for the past year, i can guaruntee you that i, myself would have hooked up with at least one of my ftm friends, becasue they are fucking beautiful, and it’s hard to not anyway.

if you have any questions about trans people, and what the process of transitioning looks like, and how that is handled, i would be more than willing to field any questions. i know a lot on the subject, and would rather people ask than not know what to do with it.