I feel I start all of these with “So I know I haven’t updated in a while…” and I apologize for that. I’m tryin’ to keep it real but I’m also trying to deal with school which, as the semester continues, somehow progressively gets worse and worse. Cry me a river, woe is me, etc. etc. No, this is not an article from the Frat Boy Diaries. Those will be posted soon. I hope.
Now, since this past weekend was Halloween AND dads’ weekend I was also tied up with parties and tending to my dad and uncle. Since I am a very conceited individual, I will post a picture of me and my roommates from Halloween since our costumes were pretty much the bomb diggity. That’s how we role.
This is us as the crew from Drawn Together:
Xandir, Foxxy Love, Captain Hero, and Ling Ling
The party we were at was totally ballin’ and we had a blast etc. etc. etc.
But then Saturday came along, a day know to you clever little Christians as All Saints Day. Naturally at The Molly House we had an All Slutz Day party to celebrate the festivities. One of our goals as a house is basically to accept our sexuality. Not that all people exist solely to have sex, but personally I think it’s terrible to make people feel bad or guilty about having sex or being sexual. It’s a very human thing to feel and, more often than not, feeling sexy is often coupled with feeling good. Finding yourself as sexy makes you feel, among other things, confident and strong. Desired even.
Everyone dressed up the night before for Halloween, so now was a chance to dress down. A lot of people came and were dressed in sexy clothing. Everyone from sorostitutes to Little Red Riding Ho was present and letting their inhibitions down for a little while. This was a party where everyone was a slut, and the sluttier you were the better, so there was no judgment among anyone at the party saying things like, “Gross, that girl’s tits are totally hanging out. She’s like … hanging all over that guy. What a slut.” The point was to be able to show the sexual side of your personality and not have to feel ashamed about it.
One of my best friends here on campus, who we will refer to as Samantha Darling, is an RA here on campus. I happen to be friend with her AND one of her residents (we’ll call her Bianca) so naturally they were both invited to the party. They were in the same room as each other, they were wearing sexy clothing, and they saw each other. They know each other, maybe they even consider each other friends, and a photo was taken of them standing next together. The photo was reported and Samantha was warned that if the photo was not taken down from the internet she would be fired from her job. The photo consists of the two women smiling together, Samantha has her shoulder over her resident’s shoulder, and her shirt is indeed open. No nipples were exposed. No vaginal areas were exposed, but you could see that Samantha was indeed a female who had breasts.
Apparently this could be seen as sexual harassment. I do not study law, nor do I intend to, which is why I am begging anyone with knowledge of “the system” to explain how this works. These two people are both friends of mine and were both invited by me to the party. No alcohol is present in the photo. If the two were at the beach, they would more likely than not be wearing less clothing than they were at my party, yet a photo of the two at the beach would not be deemed unacceptable by housing officials. Why is this? Does anyone have a finer knowledge of RA contracts?
Now, if Bianca hadn’t seen Samantha Darling at the party, I would have been the only person she knew at the party. I believe that because her RA was at the party she was actually in a safer environment. Does this make sense? Am I just so sexually liberal that I’m blinded by what can be considered sexual harassment? Is it wrong to believe that an RA and her resident can have a friendship outside of the dorms? Is it really so wrong for them to admit to knowing each other by taking a photo together at a party?
Another one of my friends is an RA at another residence hall and he has often been very wary of coming to parties at The Molly House because he sees residents of his hall on the invite list. I hate that my friends feel they cannot come to a party I am throwing because I am friends with both them and their residents. I hate that my friend’s residence and income that she depends on is threatened because she took a photo with one of her residents at a party. It blows my mind, but according to housing officials it really shouldn’t. This is a small town and people know each other. We’re a close-knit community and we should be proud of it, not punished for it.
But I’m ranting. I know I am and I should probably go over this and edit it and make it a bit more objective, but damn, it’s election season and I will be damned if I don’t have an opinion.
Vote Dukakis.
Liam Reed: 1987 model, runs fairly well, few dents, starts in cold weather, no baggage, loves flea markets and canned soup. Send all hate mail, love mail, and sexual advances to withtongue@gmail.com
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Mike Consalvo (Mike Consalvo) says:
(Posted November 3rd, 2008 at 10:13 pm)
I don’t understand the whole RA sexual harrasment bullshit thing. I’m of no help to you there.
I voted for Dukakis 5 times in ‘88, even though I was only 13 at the time. And he still lost.
Btw, hot pic……….but I think you look better with darker hair.