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My First Real Life BDSM Experience

posted by Jess at 9:04 pm.

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So the title may actually be a bit misleading depending on how one approaches it. Did I have an experience related to BDSM? Yes. Did I do anything to anyone? No. But take it from me; this was exciting nonetheless.

I invited a friend of mine to last month’s munch. Interestingly enough, those in attendance probably thought that my good friend was my submissive. I suppose it makes sense considering that I “suggested” (i.e. told him) what food he wanted to purchase. As per usual, I bombarded them with various questions related to the Lifestyle. However, tonight was different. One of those in attendance invited me to his place to see and play with his gear. I wish to emphasize that I would recommend that anyone else do what I did that night. I ordinarily would have said no given the fact that I didn’t know him that well and that I was going to be totally vulnerable in his apartment. But this was too good to pass up.

Plus, I had a safety buddy.

We drive him back to his apartment and he, of course, invites us in. I must admit that a part of me was a little surprised at how “ordinary” his apartment looked. It was well lit, there were no chains dangling from the ceiling, and the decor had a comfortable feel to it. The gentleman invited us to take off our coats and shoes and to make ourselves comfortable. This was impossible for me but I tried to feign confidence and nonchalance. After a few minutes, he returns to the living room with a large plastic bin filled with whips, crops, paddles, flogs, canes, and other delicious items of torture. He invited us to “try them out” as he gave me tips and hints regarding the best places to buy gear and how to use such gear. After we finish perusing through the plastic bin, he invites to his room.

Excluding the animal skins on his bed and a rather large chest that was sitting on the floor, his room, like the living room, could be considered “average”. I could tell at this point that he was excited to show his collection to others. He opened the large chest and, alas, more gear! Except this gear was different. It was more intense. He showed us all of his canes, gags, latex gloves, restraint devices, masks, etc. He even demonstrated how a sensory deprivation mask worked by putting one on himself. He offered to show me how the more intense mask worked, but I turned it down because I would have needed to zip/tie him in. I don’t even trust myself to do that. After a few more minutes of chatting and demonstrations, it was time to leave. We thanked him for his time and trust in showing us his gear and promptly left. I’ll be honest, I am still reeling from this super-awesome experience. I hope to someday use what I learned from that night. But even if I never participate in any BDSM fun, I’m still really thankful that I was able to touch and play with some of the gear.

Jessica : Jessica is double majoring in Nerdology and Aesthetics and has a minor headache. She enjoys philosophical discussions and challenging the status quo. Above all else, she wants to hear YOUR story,too!