I suppose before I begin this rant I should explain where I’m coming from. I’m not good with dates/dating/courting/suitors. In fact, they make me unbelievably nervous and a little nauseous. Whenever I go on a date with someone I genuinely like, I feel obligated to keep the other party interested. I don’t get asked out that often and when I do (especially by someone I like) I become ridiculously awkward. I ask stupid questions, repeat myself, and sweat profusely. Plus, my excitement/nervousness during the date often blinds me from the fact that the person I’m on the date with doesn’t seem interested in me at all whatsoever. It leads to a rude awakening later. Some of the women I’ve dated have been either completely crazy (no, really) or compulsive liars. I’m not sure whether to blame this on my taste in women of who is attracted to me. Either way, it might be best to stay away from the types who talk on their cell phones or text during a date. Also, stay away from the ones who don’t tell you that they’re dating you and other people at the same time. But I assure you, I’m not bitter.
So, I saw He’s Just Not That Into You last night. It was a mistake. Upon swimming through a sea of womenfolk in an effort to quickly leave the theater and hopefully forget the movie I had just witnessed, I felt a series of emotions. Anger, disappointment, disgust, and sadness were the few emotions I could identify.
Judging from the trailers, I thought the movie was supposed to dish out some advice to those of us who have no idea what the hell is going on during a date/courtship. I was wrong. While it did serve the purpose of educating the audience in dating men during the first hour or so, the rest of the movie was what my friends commonly refer to as a “clusterfuck”.
I don’t want to give away too much of the plot but I’ll just say that almost everyone got his/her happy ending. I almost gagged. If that is how “love”, or whatever the kids call it these days, works then I must be living in the wrong reality. People break up and they don’t get back together. People argue with each other and neither party sits and thinks about what the other just said. As much as this film tried to be a complex yet happy story, I still felt/feel terribly depressed. I didn’t have any of what the characters in the film had. Those who ended up single looked absolutely miserable. I don’t think there was one happy single woman in this film. I understand that the film is targeted towards women who desperately want/need a relationships, but I think it’s just setting them up to fail. If a man doesn’t want to marry you yet still wants to stay committed to you, he probably won’t decide to marry you a few weeks later. Be happy with what you have! I could say that the movie was simply entertainment but it affected some if not all of the gabillion women in the theater. I remember walking out to the theater and hearing a young woman say to her friend that she wants to begin the process of finding her true love. [Insert eye roll here]
I was never a huge fan of romantic comedies so I really shouldn’t be surprised that I didn’t like this film. It could also be that my sense of reality is very different from that of everyone else. Maybe it could be that I felt inadequate after seeing the movie.I enjoy being single and not forced to deal with much of the drama that couples encounter. However, movies like this kind of make me feel like I should be in a relationship. It’s almost as if they’re asking me why I’m not in a blissfully happy relationship. I’m waiting for the day when I look back on this post and find that I have eaten my words. But until that fateful day forever from now I’m just going to eat my Flamin’ Hot Cheetos Puffs in my empty dorm room alone AND ENJOY MY SINGLE STATUS.
Jessica : Jessica is double majoring in Nerdology and Aesthetics and has a minor headache. She enjoys philosophical discussions and challenging the status quo. Above all else, she wants to hear YOUR story,too!
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good sean (good sean) says:
(Posted February 8th, 2009 at 1:59 am)
I remember reading a study about how chick flicks give women unreasonable expectations about romance.( i swear i read it on the bcc news like a month ago. esp in the field of men expecting what women want. I know the interpretation is a bit misogynistic…
Brooke (Brooke) says:
(Posted February 8th, 2009 at 11:49 am)
I like ending where everything ends perfectly, because it reminds me how shitty my life is and how much I am lacking in the romance department. In the end it makes me happy for 2.586 minutes and than bitter for 5.87 weeks.
Nikki (Nikki) says:
(Posted February 9th, 2009 at 9:15 am)
This is why I don’t pay even as much as the rental fee to see chick flicks. They screw with your head too much.
Liza (Liza) says:
(Posted February 9th, 2009 at 11:13 am)
Movies are for entertainment. And I have to agree with the eye roll, people who try to take a romantic comedy seriously are not sensible, but then again, there’s nothing wrong with dreaming, having hope. Also, so what if the person who never believed in marriage decides to marry a few weeks later? It’s just a part in the movie to keep the audience satisfied. Nobody wants a completely sad ending in their movie, some already have enough sad endings in their life.
Emily (Emily) says:
(Posted February 9th, 2009 at 2:20 pm)
I like romantic comedies so much that I watch them when I’m sick because they make me feel physically better. I whine with girly bliss when adorable things happen, and I hope to God that something as cliche and sickeningly sweet will happen to me one day.. But more importantly, I know what life is, and I know (I use that word loosely here) what love is, and it’s generally not “cliche” or sweet, just sickening. Hurt happens. It happens more than happy endings. Pretty much no one get’s what they expect out of a relationship, it’s just lucky if you’re surprised for the better. I will continue to love romantic comedies, and I may be caught being that annoying girl walking out of a theater.. but it’s just me riding the high from watching 1.8 hours of one-liners, perfect kisses, and makeup/hair that never moves… just like real life!
p.s. I liked the blog 
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Tracy (Tracy) says:
(Posted February 7th, 2009 at 6:29 pm)
I have to agree. It is especially upsetting that a film which seems to promote finding fulfillment being single strives so hard to complete a Hollywood ending by having virtually every character find true love. The movie is called He’s Just Not That Into You for a reason, yet it fails to live up to the name. Very disappointing. Other films that have the happy, bow-tied ending include Itty Bitty Titty Commitee, where EVERY character finds a relationship at the end despite the fact the movie isn’t a romance. I’m looking forward to reading more blogs by you!