As I dashed outside to feed the meter, I was feeling excited about everything except the freezing weather. After a very moving interview for one of my stories last night, I felt inspired. (That will come soon). I felt like things in this world were progressing. I thought, maybe the sinking feeling I was getting as, quite frankly, all my greatest fears, were relayed to me in the life experience of one of my peers, was happening less and less.
As in, I was foolish to think that the brutal treatment she depicted was not as widespread anymore. Maybe, I thought, our nation is getting somewhere. Maybe kids won’t have to face what she did. Read on, you’ll see how wrong I was.
As I was going through my e-mails, I saw the same e-mails I get everyday from the New York Times and the Washington Post (you sign up, they e-mail the news to you, you read it, then….you know what’s going on in our world…check it out, it’s totally free!).
One article struck me as particularly appalling, not because of the way the article was written (in fact, I’d like to give props to Jeremy Peters for covering the piece), but rather for the sad truth of the content it is based on.
JUST THE FACTS:
What happened: Same-Sex Marriage bill was rejected
Who cast the votes: New York State Senate
Vote totals: 38-24
Total potential votes that could have been cast: 62
When was the resolution reached: Wednesday
How long until we hear about it again: 1 year (at least, that’s when there will be a new “legislature”)
As quoted from the New York Times article by: Jeremy W. Peters
“Senators who voted against the measure said the public was gripped by economic anxiety and remained uneasy about changing the state’s definition of marriage.”
“Certainly this is an emotional issue and an important issue for many New Yorkers,” said Senator Tom Libous, the deputy Republican leader. “I just don’t think the majority care too much about it at this time because they’re out of work, they want to see the state reduce spending, and they are having a hard time making ends meet. And I don’t mean to sound callous, but that’s true.”
–Libous, let me get this right, since people are feeling economic anxiety, you want to further restrict the LGBT constituents from SPENDING money on weddings and marriage ceremonies of sorts? Oh yeah, that makes sense. Oh and by the way, you do sound callous, but ignorant as well. Gay marriage wouldn’t make people have a harder time making ends meet.
Also from the article:
“Pollsters say that while support generally is building for same-sex marriage, especially as the electorate ages, voters resist when they fear the issue is being pushed too fast.”
–Oh, I’m sorry, you’re right. We’re almost in the year 2010, in an internet age….and wherein the world keeps changing on so many levels. You’re right, the issue is being pushed too fast. Yeah, and desegregation went far too quickly, and people from multiple races really shouldn’t be getting married, I mean what are they thinking. They don’t belong together, it might make everyone else uncomfortable. What would the neighbors say?
“Since 2003, seven states, including three that border New York, have legalized same-sex marriage. But in two of the seven — California last year and Maine last month — statewide referendums have restricted marriage to straight couples, prohibiting gay nuptials.”
“The defeat revealed stark divides: All 30 of the Republican senators opposed the bill, as did most of the members from upstate New York and Long Island. Support was heaviest among members from New York City and Westchester County and among the Senate’s 10 black members. Seven of the Senate’s 10 women voted for it.”
I love it how the Blacks and the Women are pointed out in the New York Times article. I mean, you must be able to recall the political debacle after the California vote. Everyone blamed the Blacks…because…as I can recall from the media buzz…since we had a Black man (half that is) running for president, all the Blacks came out to vote. And, they overwhelmingly voted against the bill. Okay, so thus it’s their fault, since clearly they’re the majority. Since when did a minority become a majority? The thoughts that ran though the minds of the media elite at the time is just beyond me.
It must have gone something like this:
Oh hey Stew, I have an idea, let’s figure out how many Black people in California voted against gay marriage legislation. Then we can broadcast that number. I mean, ’cause of Obama, they came out to vote. Then we can pitch the gays against the Blacks.
Great idea, get the numbers. This will make our career.
One question, whatever happened to the idea of minimizing harm…and NOT slanting the news? Oh, okay, yeah…get back to me on that.
I love..LOVE when the media poses women with the gays. I mean, if anyone of those 7 women are unwed or without children, they will probably face allegations of having the gay gene soon. That’s my prediction.
“‘I’m a woman and a Jew and so I know about discrimination,’ said Senator Liz Krueger of Manhattan.”
Oh sweetheart. That’s great. I’m glad you expressed your feelings publicly, but I’m sorry. As a JEW in NEW YORK, I have a hard time believing that you REALLY know what it’s like to face discrimination. However, for the moment, let’s say that the life you have lived has, sadly, afforded you the knowledge and experience of being discriminated. The problem is, approving same-sex marriage legislation isn’t about DISCRIMINATION. It’s about giving LGBT individuals that have been together for, let’s just say, 60 years, the ability, no sorry, the legal permission, if you will, to visit their terminally ill partner in the hospital.
According to the site, FreedomToMarry.org:
“There are over 1,100 protections and responsibilities conferred on married couples by the federal government including access to health care, parenting and immigration rights, social security, veterans and survivor benefits, and transfer of property—and that doesn’t include at least several hundred state and local laws, and employers, or the intangible security, dignity, respect, and meaning that comes with marriage. Excluding committed same-sex couples from marriage means shutting out families from the safety and security created by these protections and responsibilities.”
More from the NYTimes article:
“I think that there were political forces that in some respects intimidated some of those who voted,” said Mr. Paterson. “I think if there’d actually been a conscience vote we’d be celebrating marriage equality right now.”
“Several supporters said they felt they had been betrayed by senators who promised to vote yes but then, reluctant to support an issue as politically freighted as same-sex marriage if they could avoid it, switched their votes on the floor when it became evident the bill would lose.”
–Great point. Since when did politics become about your next term in office rather than your current constituents? Was this vote more about how many “successful” these senators record proves to be? Isn’t it their job to vote for bills that the people want, rather than going with what’s cool?
“Advocates for same-sex marriage have attempted to portray their cause as inevitable,” Richard E. Barnes, the executive director of the New York State Catholic Conference, said in the statement. “However, it has become clear that Americans continue to understand marriage the way it has always been understood, and New York is not different in that regard. This is a victory for the basic building block of our society.”
–Yeah, Barnes is right, I mean….slavery, religious discrimination, multi-racial marriage, the Ku Klux Klan, all tenants of the American society. Let’s bring them all back. When slavery was abolished, that meant that what “had always been understood” was proven wrong, and had been for a while. People were starting to understand that.
Alan Van Capelle, executive director of the Empire State Pride Agenda, New York’s largest gay rights group, hinted that senators who voted against the bill on Wednesday could face repercussions.
And Christine C. Quinn, the New York City Council speaker, echoed that sentiment, saying, “Anybody who thinks that by casting a no vote they’re putting this issue to bed, they’re making a massive miscalculation.”
I agree with all of them. You just wait…
See the thing that people keep misunderstanding…is that we (as in LGBTQ people) are EVERYWHERE. Yes, in your schools, teaching your children. Yes, in your military, defending the rights you take for granted. Yes, in your families, your parents, your siblings, and most of all, your children. Yes, kids are coming out earlier and earlier as of late. As the adage goes, yes, “we’re here, we’re queer.”
I prefer the version put together by members of “the family” earlier this semester at the National Equality rally in Washington, D.C., perhaps it’s been known like this by others in the past.
We’re Here,
We’re Queer,
Don’t Fuck With Us.
(Yeah not every great chant has to rhyme.)
It’s really interesting that the New York State Senate has a website where they provide information for their constituents. The front page is void of anything about this vote, other than a line from their Twitter section announcing the vote. In the area where they have press releases, there isn’t anything about this vote. Despite the fact that a press release about other legislation went live yesterday. They’ll be working on this press release for a while, if they knew what was good for them, they’d get to it quicker. Oh, but we don’t want to put pressure on them or anything…in this trying economic time. I’m sure they’re really busy doing “real” work. No, that’s alright. We’ll wait. After all, last I checked, we’re not going anywhere.
As I’ve been writing this, my pandora station has been playing. This song came on. It’s very appropriate for the mood this story brings about in me. Time to tell “the family” in New York to go hide for a bit…
Lyrics Below (since this is a life version, she changed some of the words):
where are we?
what the hell is going on?
the dust has only just begun to form
crop circles in the carpet
sinking feeling
spin me round again
and rub my eyes,
this can’t be happening
when busy streets a mess with people
would stop to hold their heads heavy
hide and seek
trains and sewing machines
all those years
they were here first
oily marks appear on walls
where pleasure moments hung before the takeover,
the sweeping insensitivity of this still life
hide and seek
trains and sewing machines (oh, you won’t catch me around here)
blood and tears (hearts)
they were here first
Mmmm whatcha say,
Mmm that you only meant well?
well of course you did
Mmmm whatcha say,
Mmmm that it’s all for the best?
of course it is
Mmmm whatcha say?
Mmmm that it’s just what we need
you decided this
whatcha say?
Mmmm what did she say?
ransom notes keep falling out your mouth
mid-sweet talk, newspaper word cut outs
speak no feeling no I don’t believe you
you don’t care a bit,
you don’t care a bit
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